Are You Doing All the Right Things But Not Seeing Results? Here's What Might Be Missing
"I'm eating healthy, working out consistently, doing everything I'm supposed to do... so why isn't my body changing?"
If this question keeps you up at night, you're definitely not alone.
This is hands-down the most common frustration I hear from women who reach out to me. They're putting in the effort, following the advice, showing up day after day—but the results just aren't coming.
And here's what's really heartbreaking: they start blaming themselves.
The Real Problem (It's Not What You Think)
After working with hundreds of women over the past decade, I can tell you that 90% of the time, the issue isn't:
Lack of willpower or discipline
Not trying hard enough
Being "broken" or having bad genetics
Needing to restrict more or exercise harder
The real problem? You're doing the wrong approach for your unique body and goals.
Let me explain what I mean.
The Generic Advice Trap
Most fitness and nutrition advice is designed for the masses. It's one-size-fits-all information that doesn't account for:
Your current metabolic state
Your stress levels and sleep quality
Your training history and recovery capacity
Your actual lifestyle and time constraints
Your unique hormonal profile
Your food preferences and psychological relationship with eating
So you end up following advice that might work great for someone else but completely misses the mark for your body and circumstances.
Common Misalignments I See Every Day
The Under-Eating Achiever
You're eating 1,200-1,400 calories while working out 5-6 times per week. You think you're being "good," but your body has downregulated your metabolism to match your low intake. No wonder you're tired, cold, and not seeing changes.
The Cardio Queen
You're spending hours on the treadmill but never building muscle. Without adequate muscle mass, your metabolism stays low and your body composition doesn't improve, even if you lose weight.
The Macro Mismatched
You're hitting your calorie target but your macronutrient ratios are completely wrong for your goals. Maybe you're trying to build muscle on 80 grams of protein, or attempting fat loss while eating 60% carbs.
The All-or-Nothing Perfectionist
Your plan only works if you execute it perfectly. The moment life gets messy (which it always does), everything falls apart and you're back to square one.
The Stress Case
You're doing everything "right" with food and exercise, but your stress levels are through the roof. High cortisol is sabotaging every effort you make, but you're focused on the wrong variables.
The Questions That Change Everything
When someone comes to me feeling stuck, I ask specific questions that reveal what's really going on:
About Their Approach:
What does a typical day of eating look like for you?
How many calories are you actually consuming versus what you think you need?
What's your training schedule, and how long have you been following it?
About Their Body's Response:
How's your energy throughout the day?
Are you hungry between meals, or never hungry at all?
How's your sleep quality and stress levels?
How do you feel during and after workouts?
About Their Goals vs. Reality:
What specific changes are you hoping to see?
What's your timeline expectation?
What constraints do you have (time, energy, preferences)?
The answers usually reveal exactly why their current approach isn't working.
What a Proper Assessment Looks Like
A real evaluation of your approach should examine:
Metabolic Health Indicators
Energy levels throughout the day
Hunger and satiety signals
Sleep quality and recovery
Mood stability
Training performance
Nutritional Alignment
Total caloric intake relative to your needs
Macronutrient ratios for your specific goals
Meal timing and food quality
Hydration and micronutrient status
Training Effectiveness
Exercise selection and progression
Volume and intensity relative to recovery capacity
Balance between strength, cardio, and mobility
Rest and recovery protocols
Lifestyle Integration
Stress management strategies
Time constraints and realistic expectations
Social and environmental factors
Psychological relationship with food and exercise
The Power of Small Adjustments
Here's what's amazing: often the solution isn't a complete overhaul. It's strategic adjustments that align your approach with your actual needs.
I've seen women transform their results by:
Adding 300-500 calories to their daily intake
Switching from cardio-focused to strength-focused training
Adjusting their macro ratios by 10-15%
Changing their meal timing to support their natural rhythms
Adding one extra rest day per week for better recovery
Small changes, massive results—when they're the right changes.
Why Most People Never Get This Clarity
The fitness industry profits from keeping you confused and constantly searching for the next solution. Generic programs, cookie-cutter meal plans, and one-size-fits-all approaches are easier to create and market.
But your body is unique. Your life is unique. Your approach should be too.
Getting personalized feedback on what you're currently doing (and what you should be doing instead) is often the missing piece that unlocks everything.
What to Look for in a Quality Assessment
If you're considering getting your approach evaluated, here's what to look for:
Comprehensive Questions: It should go beyond just "what do you eat" to examine your entire lifestyle, stress levels, training history, and goals.
Personalized Analysis: The feedback should be specific to your situation, not generic advice that could apply to anyone.
Actionable Recommendations: You should walk away with clear, specific steps you can implement immediately.
Professional Expertise: The person reviewing your approach should have experience working with people in similar situations and understand the nuances of metabolism, hormones, and behavior change.
Your Next Step
If you're tired of spinning your wheels and ready to get clarity on what's actually holding you back, consider getting a professional assessment of your current approach.
The right evaluation can save you months or even years of frustration by identifying exactly what needs to change for your unique situation.
Ready to discover what might be missing from your approach?
I periodically offer free Macro & Metabolic Reviews where I personally analyze your current nutrition and training approach and provide specific recommendations for improvement.
If you're interested in getting on the list for the next round of reviews, click here to learn more.
Because here's what I know: You're not broken. You're not lacking willpower. You just need an approach that actually fits your body and your life.
Ready to stop guessing and start getting results? Sometimes all it takes is a fresh set of expert eyes to spot what you've been missing.
